Anyone else love the movie Inception as much as I do?
It was such an interesting film about being able to enter people’s dreams and steal their secrets from their subconscious. In the movie they use something called a Totem for keeping track of reality. It’s an an object that is used to test if oneself is in one’s own reality.
Now it wasn’t until I got certified in Transformation coaching and learned about how establishing an anchor which is very similar to their totems, is such a valuable tool in breaking emotional eating.
When I am working with my clients I have them chose an anchor, something in their physical environment that will remind them of their why, their real why, their reason for wanting to be the healthiest version of themselves.
An anchor can be a piece of jewelry, a picture, a crystal, it can be something on your body such as a knuckle.
The way I teach clients to use their chosen anchor is to check in with it when they find themselves doing an old behavior such as reaching for food for comfort when they’re not hungry. It’s a simple check in. You can feel or look at your anchor and gently ask yourself, “Am I making the best choice for myself in this moment?” This will bring you back, and anchor you back to your reason and allow you get re-grounded into your desired state.
Now this method is really best when we are doing change work along with it so you have choices in how to comfort yourself in other ways beside eating.
When I started to heal my emotional eating I would hold on to a mala bracelet that was a gift and feel the beads. It was and still is my anchor. It reminds me of what I’m here to do, not spend my time thinking of food, calories and how much I weigh. It is my reminder that I am here to help women.
So the first place to start is to ask yourself why you want what you want? I don’t want to hear, so I can date, wear jeans or finally be happy because as we all know by now, until you do the inner work it won’t matter what size jeans you’re wearing or who you’re dating. You’ll still be in a stressed, self critical place and the moment of happiness ends from the stress of trying to control what you eat so you won’t gain weight back.
So what is your real why?
Mine was to finally be at peace with my body, to think about more than what I was eating or live in constant terror of gaining weight, (which always led me to gain weight.) I wanted to feel at peace wherever I was and trust me I thought that was going to be impossible. But once I anchored my why, when I would reach for food I would feel my bracelet and get curious. I would ask myself if eating this would bring me closer to feeling peaceful and wait to see what choice I would make. If I went for the food I wouldn’t judge myself, I would just inquire and say to myself, hmmm, very interesting that I ate that, how do I feel, what could I possibly do next time to get me closer to feeling peaceful?
Can you feel how much more relaxed that is? Now if you follow me, you know that what I teach is when we are relaxed, we can actually hear our body better, we can feel what she wants, we are in a parasympathetic state. The parasympathetic nervous system is sometimes called the rest and digest system, the parasympathetic system conserves energy as it slows the heart rate, and increases intestinal and gland activity. In the “rest and digest” state, our bodies are being kept well-fed and grounded. The walls of the esophagus, stomach, and intestines keep on churning. The glands that aid in digestion, like the gallbladder, pancreas, and salivary glands become more active, so we are able to digest our food and not store it.
So this is why it’s SO much more than counting calories, eating kale and walking a mile.
Our bodies are made to work perfectly all we need to do is pay attention and stay connected which is why using an anchor is a great physical reminder to stay in touch to what your body is asking for.
If you’d like to find out more anchoring, lets hop on the phone and talk about how this could help you put an end to emotional eating!